Sienna was born in winter 2002, after a difficult birth. I held her in my arms and was amazed that she made it through the difficult labour all in one piece. However the Obstetric Registrar that was on duty at the time, decided to put her on antibiotics, because I was very unwell with a virus. So they took her some place, I did not know where. After some time I decided to try and find her, because I wanted to breastfeed her, hold her close to me and talk to her. I eventually found her and insisted that they bring her up to my room.
After day two she was struggling to feed and turned purple quite a few times during the day, and then that night the nurse on duty rushed her out of the room, without telling me where she was going. She came back and told me after several hours of waiting that Sienna had been taken to a special neonatal unit, as she had cleared her airways and helped her to breathe again and now some tests where being done. After a few hours I had to go find her and give her a breastfeed. When I found her the Doctor and Nurse on duty told me they were isolating her because there was something not quite right about her, she looked different and they wanted to test her chromosomes. I told them I did not care what she looked like, I loved her and I just wanted to feed her and hold her. So I did, and she seemed much warmer after that. I had to leave her in the unit and go.
I did this over several days and as I had been insisting they bring her up to my room, they decided to move her to a room with other babies with feeding issues. After a week had gone by the neonatologist visited and told me all the tests were normal, she had all normal chromosomes: we where able to go home, however he informed me she had a dysmorphic appearance and that meant that she would most likely have developmental delay. Then as he checked her to be discharged, he found she had dysplasia of the hips. Sienna then needed to have a splint on her hips which did not allow her to move her legs or hips for 3 months. This was an extremely difficult time for Sienna because she found it difficult to sleep and move around with this splint on. I was not allowed to bath her to comfort her. I would hold her lots and sing to her. The hospital did not support me to breastfeed, however I knew it was the best for her. It would take a long time to feed her.
Then when sienna was about 5 weeks of age, I noticed she did not look at me or focus her eyes on me or anything really. I followed this up with the ophthalmologist at the hospital, which took a considerable amount of time. Finally the ophthalmologist said she did not know what was wrong; we just had to wait and see. I insisted there was something that perhaps would be done, and then they suggested a Brain Stem test. This resulted in a finding of cortical vision loss. When we next saw the ophthalmologist she told us Sienna was blind. Of course I did not believe them. I knew Sienna did see some things and so I learnt to help her. She loved looking at moving objects and toys that made noises etc. so we spent lots of time trying to improve her vision. Sienna did not enjoy going to the hospital, because the Doctors would not talk to her, as though she wasn’t there, and so she quickly learnt to switch off from their comments.
I had noticed for some time that Sienna would get upset at loud noises and her little face would be expressionless at times. I asked the hospital doctors about this, and they did not believe me, so I found a path through my GP and I insisted on getting a referral to the Hearing Assessment centre with Child and Youth Health. After this appointment it was confirmed that Sienna had severe bilateral hearing loss. We were told grommets would help to improve her hearing loss, so then it was a journey to find an Ear, nose and throat Surgeon who would operate. We had a couple of referrals and when they met Sienna they just said it would not help her and were quite arrogant about their position.
Then we went back to our GP and asked him to phone around for us. We would not leave the room until he did. He found a Senior ENT surgeon who would see us. He was fantastic and talked to Sienna and Sienna laughed as he did. I was able to see that he had a lot of compassion and Sienna liked him. He did the operation and it did improve her hearing to a Moderate permanent bilateral hearing loss. By the time Sienna turned 11 months of age, she had hearing aids to help her. The operation for inserting the grommets was done quite a few times because Sienna’s body wanted to expel the grommets. So it was good that the Surgeon was so helpful. We had to do these operations at a private hospital because there was an 18 month waiting list at the public hospital and they did not see Sienna as a priority.
There where many challenges for Sienna and I, and of course for her big sister, who cared immensely about her little sister. One of the biggest challenges was when Sienna got very ill with pneumonia and the nurses insisted on me not breastfeeding because it was too much work for Sienna. They put a nasogastric tube into her. This was not good and Sienna got most upset and stopped eating completely. She was admitted to hospital several times with pneumonia.
When Sienna was about 9 months of age the doctors informed me that she needed to have a gastrostomy so that she would be able to continue to grow. Her weight was decreasing and she had not grown now for some time. The doctors also told me they suspected Sienna was aspirating. Because of this, and as Sienna did not like the nasogastric tube in, it was becoming more difficult to breastfeed her. At about 12 months of age she had a gastrostomy inserted.
Sienna began to grow and got well and about 20 months of age she refused to breastfeed and so continued to bottle-feed her. Not long after this, however, she got pneumonia again and then stopped eating completely, so all her nutrition was via her gastrostomy. At this stage the paediatrician made a referral to palliative care for Sienna. However I knew that Sienna had a very determined spirit and we found they limited Sienna accessing therapy etc. The paediatrician told me that Sienna would not be able to walk, talk, eat or drink etc again, however he did not know why, except to say it is due to some type of neurological disorder. Sienna had previously had a CT scan of her brain and it showed atrophy of the corpus callosum (it had wasted away).
There were so many more challenges now, as Sienna really enjoyed going to child care in the morning, but now with the gastrostomy she was not able to be given her nutrition, until the staff where credentialed, so I had to give up my part time job and care for her. I wrote many letters to the Government for them to assist in credentialing and eventually the funding came through and so the staff at child care, were able to give Sienna her nutrition.
As Sienna was not able to speak so that others understood her, I developed a picture card system that was textured, so when Sienna wanted to do something she was able to look to the picture she wanted and then would be able to do this. This was very effective; however many other people such as Doctors, Nurses and child care staff would not use this method of communication, so I taught Sienna some basic signs which she learnt quite quickly, however the other people, such as doctors and child care staff, would often not see the signs because they were too busy and they did not give Sienna time to respond. She always likes people to talk to her and many people would stop talking when they did not get immediate response. Sienna would nod her head up and down to say ‘yes, please keep talking to me’. So I became one of Sienna’s main forms of communication, we would sing, talk, read stories etc. We found this most helpful, especially when having to visit the paediatric emergency department, the staff would not listen to us and they would do unnecessary tests and Sienna would get extremely distressed, so I would sing her songs to comfort her and then the staff would see how Sienna listened to me and responded and then they realised Sienna did understand.
When Sienna was two years old, she wanted to go up with her peers to toddlers’ sessions, we were told this was not possible, because Sienna was a baby and needed to stay in the baby section. Sienna wanted to go up to the next level with her friends and play with new toys and learn other things now. So I persisted in many ways, as she would catch many viruses from being in the baby room. I insisted her health would be better for her to move up to the kindy by the age of three. So when Sienna turned three, they transitioned her up.
This was very interesting because the staff had not seen a little girl like Sienna. I explained many things to help them to understand Sienna. Now Sienna was moving around the room on her bottom and using her hearing and vision to get around the room. It took a few months for Sienna to get used to the kindy because it was quite noisy and this would often scare her and the other children would not understand that they needed to come up close and talk to her so she would know they were there.

Now as Sienna is 5, I have been asking the Department of Education to transition her to the local primary school, where her sister has been attending for the past 5 years. This is proving to be difficult; they will not transition her until term 4. The Department of Education has recommended that Sienna go to a special school for children with complex needs. However after Sienna visited these environments, she told me through using signs and picture cards she wanted to go to school with her friends that she knows from her kindy. Sienna has been walking with support and enjoys walking alongside her friends and hearing them talk and sing around her.
In the past years, Sienna has been diagnosed with severe asthma (at 2 years of age, managed with medication), central sleep apnoea (at 3 1/2 years of age, after waiting a year on the sleep study waiting list, managed with oxygen when asleep, we were told Sienna most likely had this from birth), reflux (diagnosed at 4 years of age, however when they did the test at the hospital the probe was inserted into her lung instead of her stomach and Sienna got pneumonia, this is managed with medication), chronic constipation. This was diagnosed at age 3 after been admitted to hospital with pneumonia. During the night she coughed so much she had a bowel prolapse, because the doctors didn’t believe Sienna had a history of constipation, this has subsequently been managed through surgery and medication. She was diagnosed with carnitine deficiency metabolic disorder (diagnosed at 4 1/2 years of age, after a blood test showed she had 1% carnitine in her body, this managed with medication), myopia (diagnosed at 3 years of age and now wears glasses to help bring objects into view), foveal hypoplasia (diagnosed at 1 year of age, after looking at her eyes under anaesthesia), optic nerve hypoplasia (diagnosed at 2 years of age after looking into her eyes under anaesthesia), epilepsy (diagnosed at 3 years of age and is managed with medication), moderate bilateral hearing loss (has bilateral hearing aids), hypotonia, autism spectrum disorder, bronchomalacia, tracheomalacia, chronic lower lung collapse (managed with respiratory physio everyday); scoliosis of the spine. Sienna has been admitted to hospital over 33 times in the last 4 years.
Sienna loves music and is motivated by others around her and enjoys story time. After the last Negotiated Education Plan meeting with Department of Education, we have a feeling it is going to be difficult to attend the local primary school, because the principal does not have an awareness of children with disabilities. He did not come up and say ‘Hello’ to Sienna; it was though she was not there. He wanted to know what a gastrostomy is, and the nurse at the NEP had to explain this to him. However I am going to persist that she is given the opportunity to be a child and attend the local school. I will have to work with them to assist their understanding of Sienna, as she will love going there and sitting beside the other children and learning from them. I had to write to the Minister for Education to get a space for disabled car park permit, as there were none and the Principal told me it would draw attention to people with disabilities and he did not want to do that.
Sienna also loves to go out to the local park; however there will eventually be no equipment she can play on, because as she gets bigger the swings will not support her enough. So I have written to the local council for them to make improvements to the Council parks, however this will be a hard task, because we have been told, there are not very many disabled children who use the parks. I explain to them that when the parks have disability access, and families are informed of this, more families who have a child with a disability will access the parks. There is also a need for more car parking facilities for those with disabilities. Sienna takes considerable time to get out of the car and most car parking space is very limited. The doctor at the hospital signed off on a disabled car parking permit, however most times when we park in a disabled car parking space, people ask us if we have a disabled car parking permit. It is especially difficult to access the hospital because there are only two disabled car parking spaces outside the hospital and when it is cold and wet, it is difficult to find a car park to get Sienna out of the car safely. There are also long waiting lists for equipment, as we have had to write many times to the Government to access equipment such as a standing frame, which helped Sienna to learn to stand. She is now waiting for a wheelchair so she can get around at school and also a communication device, so that the other children and teachers can communicate more effectively with her.
There is so much more to our Story, however it would require a book to be written to capture, this, above is a small glimpse. Stay tuned for a book about Sienna’s journey.
April 28th, 2008 at 2:16 pm
I now have tears, you are an amazing mother, woman and person. It’s incredible to know that one find’s more strength, the more that is thrown at them. Sienna is an amazing little girl and I wish her the best for now and the coming years. I am the mother of a little boy with cerebral palsy, who today had his first day at occasional care, WHAT a day, we like you have a long road ahead for acceptance!
January 17th, 2010 at 11:53 pm
hi there,
sounds like you have been through an amazing amount, how do you cope with having to care for her sister also. Did you ever consider palliative care or did you ever think it was a too much for her to handle and to stop all the suffering? just wondering as i have a newborn with cornelia de lange syndrome, were not sure of how she is going to turn out buts its basically a severe disability and medical complications and have 2 other kids aswell and know how much work we have ahead of us
June 14th, 2011 at 12:03 pm
Hi Jewels
After reading this I realise (though I already knew) how much of a spectacular mother you are! You have amazing patience (and I don’t necessarily mean with your daughter Sienna - I mean more with the lack of help and understanding from doctors and politicians).
You have an amazingly peaceful manner about you, you have 2 happy daughters who love you and who you love.
In my estimation (not that my estimation is necessarily worth much) - you are wonderful and deserve every happiness you can get for you and your wonderful children.
My love to you, Sienna and Tallara
Pam XXXX
June 15th, 2011 at 12:36 am
Hi Catherine, thank you for your kind words, wishing you all the best…as I didn’t realise people were writing comments here…was 3 years ago…xx
June 15th, 2011 at 12:39 am
Hi Any, thank you for your comments, I wish you all the best. In reply to your question about palliative care. Were you to read the story you would have noticed my daughter did receive palliative care assistance, but what it did was prevent therapy for her…and look now she is almost 9…thank you again for your comments..all the best *,*
June 15th, 2011 at 12:41 am
Hi Pam, thank you for your kind words, it’s lovely to see you read this story. It is such a lovely surprise to read you words, as I wrote this story almost 4 years ago…how time flys. with love xx Jewels
November 20th, 2011 at 9:44 pm
Hi we also have been blessed with an amazing son now almost 5 , he is high end on the Autistic spectrum , every day has a new challenge and we are always being stared at etc, we no longer get invited to well anywhere , and a for visits from family our friends those days are long gone, I gues I just wanted to share that with you as you shared so muchof your story with everybody, I am a father of almost 9 kids come jan 2012 and its realy hard and expensive, but all the money in the world cant buy what I have .. I am wishing your little girl all thr good furtune of the heavens ..
November 23rd, 2011 at 8:46 am
Hi Jewels,
Have just read Sienna story. You are both amazing! Very best wishes to you and Sienna, Love Anthea
November 28th, 2011 at 11:48 am
Hi Jewels,
Just wondering if you have found a diagnosis that ties all these problems together. My son has had many similar problems although some not as severe. And was diagnosed with a rare chromosome microdeletion in 2008 via microarray testing which was rather new at the time. Good luck with everything
Nicki xx